When love becomes the price you pay to feel worthy.
You show up.
You check in.
You go the extra mile.
You give, and give, and give again — even when your tank is flashing empty.
You say it’s who you are.
You say you love helping.
And maybe you do.
But underneath that service…
there’s a question you don’t say out loud:
“Will you still love me if I stop?”
Over-giving isn’t generosity.
It’s self-abandonment with a smile.
You give to feel needed.
You give to avoid being forgotten.
You give because somewhere along the way, you learned:
Your value is in what you do — not who you are.
And it’s not just to others.
You over-give to your job.
To your goals.
To your own impossible standards.
You keep proving.
Performing.
Pouring.
Until there’s nothing left but resentment wrapped in kindness.
Ask yourself:
- Am I giving from love — or from fear of being irrelevant?
- What would it feel like to give from fullness, not depletion?
- Who am I without the doing?
This is the Cushy way.
Love without losing yourself.
Generosity with boundaries.
Energy that doesn’t apologize for choosing rest.
You are not the sum of your service.
You’re allowed to keep some of that love for yourself.
