When being unshakeable becomes the loneliest place in the room.
You hold it down.
For everyone.
You don’t break.
You don’t waver.
You show up even when you’re exhausted — because someone has to.
You’ve been called solid.
Resilient.
Reliable.
And you are.
But behind the strength…
is a weight no one sees.
And a softness you don’t feel safe enough to show.
Being the strong one becomes a trap.
Because if you’re the one who “always handles it,”
who do you turn to when you need holding?
You learn to cry in private.
To struggle quietly.
To coach yourself through your own grief.
Because you’re the one everyone leans on —
and you don’t want to be a burden in return.
You mistake vulnerability for weakness.
You confuse independence with worth.
And slowly, you build a life where everyone depends on you —
but you feel emotionally alone.
Ask yourself:
- Who do I let hold me… or have I forgotten how?
- What if I let someone see the part of me that isn’t holding it together?
- Is my strength rooted in choice — or survival?
This is the Cushy way.
Power with permission to rest.
Support that goes both ways.
Softness that doesn’t need a performance.
You can still be strong.
But you don’t have to do it alone.
You’re allowed to fall apart — and still be whole.
