When you talk in circles trying to prove you’re not a burden.
You feel misunderstood.
Misread.
You want to be clear — to be kind — to be fair.
So you explain.
And explain.
And explain.
You say everything you can
so they won’t take it the wrong way,
so they won’t feel hurt,
so you won’t feel wrong.
But deep down…
you’re not just clarifying.
You’re justifying your existence.
Over-explaining is often fear in disguise.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of disappointing.
Fear of being too much, or not enough, or misunderstood.
So you wrap your truth in disclaimers
until it barely resembles what you needed to say.
Ask yourself:
- Am I explaining to connect — or to be accepted?
- What would it feel like to say less — and trust I’m still enough?
- What am I afraid they’ll assume… if I just speak plainly?
This is the Cushy way.
Truth with clarity.
Expression with trust.
Words that don’t apologize for existing.
You don’t have to explain your softness.
You don’t have to over-justify your needs.
Let your truth land.
Without all the footnotes.